Safety Not Guaranteed: A Woman’s Experience on The Seoul Subway

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Editor’s Note: 

Last week, we published an open letter from a university professor with her permission. In it, she detailed her experience of being sexually harassed as a “white female foreigner” in a public space. The ensuing debates from our readers were contentious, often empathetic, and illuminating.

Sexual harassment in public spaces, and feeling the threat of it, are uncomfortable topics to discuss. But they’re worth discussing, because the conversations invite us to revisit the spaces most of us walk through without much thought. We’re invited to imagine how those public spaces can be experienced differently, in the shoes of those with different appearances.

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As an Asian-Canadian, I am not the most obvious foreigner in Seoul. Like most people in this region of the world, I have brown eyes, black hair and skin with yellow-ish undertones.

When I’m walking around the city, South Koreans will stop me and ask for directions in Korean. “Excuse me, student, is this the way to Mizi Women’s Child-birthing Hospital?” Halmeonis (“grandmothers” in Korean) will ask.

I think this ability to camouflage makes me an opposite of “Charisma Man” (a series of comics whose titular character enjoys a privileged life as a White foreigner in East Asia): I am a foreigner who is not often perceived as different. As “not-Charisma Woman,” my secret power is that I get to catch glimpses of what it’s like to walk in the shoes of regular Jane Kims. However, such insights can sometimes be disillusioning, if not downright disturbing.

For instance, last Sunday I experienced yet again what it is like to be followed and harassed on the subway in Seoul.

It was 8:10 p.m. in the evening; it was cold out and I was heavily bundled up on my way to meet a friend for dinner. I walked into the almost-empty station and onto the equally quiet platform.

A man sitting on a nearby bench stood up and walked towards me. Round-faced and slightly overweight, he looked like a typical salaryman in his late 30s to 40s. He wore black brogues, black trousers, a thick khaki coat and an immaculately white knit circle scarf.

I glanced up and saw his face behind me, above my reflection in the glass sliding doors. It was startling: His eyes were fixed on me with an almost angry expression as he approached. We were the only two people in that section of the platform.

The man shuffled in until his body was practically up against mine. I could feel his breath against the top of my head. What the hell. Was he smelling my hair? Was he trying to rub against my butt? I moved away and turned to stare at him.

He saw that I was aware of what he was doing, so he moved, as if to walk away. After a minute or two, he circled around and began walking back. The subway alert sounded. The next train was arriving. Suddenly, he came back and stood close behind me.

At the last minute, I ran off to another empty car entrance just as the doors opened, hoping to lose the strange man.

I looked behind and saw that my bizarre companion had followed me through the same entrance.

I sat down in a corner seat beside the entrance. Almost all the seats in the car were empty. Despite this, the man seated himself beside me, turned his face towards me and leaned in close.

I immediately got up and moved to the corner seat across from where I’d sat. Then, I took out my phone and snapped a photo to document the creepiness at hand. He was still staring at me, and finally looked away when he realised his photo was being taken.

(Source: Crystal Tai)
(Source: Amy Wong)

Unfortunately, my movements only made him more aggressive. The man got up and paced back and forth, until he finally stopped in front of my feet and looked down at me menacingly.

The train stopped, doors opened for the next stop and he suddenly turned and dashed off the train.

Regardless of how nonchalant I tried to be, the situation was terrifying because I had no idea what he was going to do. (This also wasn’t my first time in this kind of situation. Last summer, a man tried to follow me home from the subway). I was confused as to why he felt so entitled to express his anger towards a random stranger.

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Around stations, I’ve seen posters near stairways advising men not to sexually harass women — complete with illustrations of male stick figures taking upskirt photos of female stick figures. On trains, there are also cartoons in Korean with frazzled-looking women, asking men not to grope female passengers.

"Secret filming is a criminal act!! Five years imprisonment and less / 10 million fine and less." A warning poster against sexual harassment, posted by the Seoul Metro Police Force.
“Secret filming is a criminal act!! Max five years imprisonment and / 10 million won fine” A warning poster against sexual harassment, posted by the Seoul Metro Police Force. (Source: Amy Wong)

On a list of cities with the most dangerous public transport systems for women, Seoul ranked 12th in the world, above New York City and Tokyo, according to the World Economic Forum.

It’s surprising, because the city also offers some of the cleanest, well-lit and efficient transport systems in the world. On the buses and subways, people wait on sidelines for others to get off before entering the car, and designated seats are left empty, in case the elderly, pregnant women or people with disabilities need to use them.

I appreciate how safe Seoul generally is. People leave phones, wallets, laptops and other belongings in coffee shops, on picnic blankets and other public areas, walk away for half an hour, and return with everything still there.

But high levels of public security does not translate to safe public spaces for women.

Since last May’s Gangnam murder, Nexon’s firing of an actress who wore a t-shirt with a Megalia slogan, and recent sentiments of misogyny towards Park Geun-hye and other women at anti-government protests, more dialogues surrounding the issues of misogyny, women’s rights and safety have begun to take place in South Korean society.

Local feminist groups, as well as the media, have also been instrumental in raising awareness about the problem of sexual harassment. And South Korean women are also talking online, tweeting about similar experiences. 

“There’s a weird guy on the Line 2 train towards Seongsoo. He was sniffing the hair of a woman who got off at Shillim Station. He keeps on walking behind women, sticking his nose at their heads and sniffing [their hair]. I didn’t notice at first, but he keeps on moving seats and doing the same thing [to different women], then getting off the train. Women beware.”

“It nearly drove me crazy when a guy stalked me on the subway for nearly a week on my way to school. I know too well how you feel. He would stare at me like crazy, at a hand’s distance. I thought I would go mad. He would follow me into the next car if I moved away. I was so scared. I can’t even report something like this.”

These are all steps in the right direction. But ultimately, for South Korea to become a safer place for all women, much more public discourse will need to take place in order to shed light upon the realities of life as a woman in South Korea.

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Tips for women:

Last year, the Seoul government launched an app to prevent sexual harassment on the subways. Titled “지하철안전지킴이” (the Subway Safekeeper), the app, which allows users to report harassment directly to the Seoul Metro, can be downloaded for iOS and Android. But it is available only in Korean.  

International anti-harassment website Hollaback!, which fights to end harassment in public spaces, launched a Korean-language chapter a few years ago. Here, women can share their stories about street harassment.

24 Comments

  1. Great article! Seoul is full of perverted guys, it’s time they started to get noticed and brought into the spotlight.
    So many Korean women are so quiet about what goes on. Silence is consent.

      • How does being harassed takes two to tango?!?!
        Obviously you are bias against your country and my bet is that you’re a male. Just for your information, im neither from taiwan, china, japan, malay, philipine, or thailand.
        Harassement EVERYWHERE in the world is a criminal act, just because maybe it happens more often in other countries, doesnt mean that korea is better than them.
        FYI, taking pictures without consent is NOT a crime. If it is, then all paparazis in your country are criminals and i bet you’ve taken pictures that have people you dont know in the background, which by YOUR understanding, makes you a criminal too. try making sense of what you wrote before posting it 🙂

      • Taking picture without consent is a crime. Paparazzi get sued for their own action. Read the news. A person who is biased is YOU!!!!! my point you need to travel more around Asia. Stop being narrow mind. Korea sexual assault or Sexual harassment is tame compared to other Asian nations even compared to western nations.

      • well then we all are criminals. im pretty sure you got pictures that have other people in the background and that’s without their consents, and so have i. i’ve been living in asia since i was born and im very well travelled. i got my degrees in the states and i’ve been to your country and many more others. who’s being narrow minded here? the fact that you think korea is BETTER than other countries just because maybe the number of sexual assaults are lesser. you need to include that fact that your country have way LESSER population than those you mentioned. you need to look at ratios. there are only 26 countries that have more population than yours and 206 lesser than yours. would you like it if the 206 countries with less people say that they are better countries because their number of sexual assaults is “tame” according to your wording. japan, china, thailand, they all have more people than korea.

        your country’s suicide numbers are breaking ground, dude. if it were better than others, wouldnt people want to live there? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_suicide_rate
        i’ts number 2 in the world according to wikipedia. look at the facts.
        and what now, with park geun hye in tow? im sorry, you have no right saying that your country is better than others.

      • Paparazzi is part of Stalking. A person like your mindset is a serious criminal. You do not accept reality instead you define everything for your own purpose.

      • can we PLEASE move forward from the paparazis? its not like you are one or am i one. if you dont have a good comeback, then dont reply. making an ignorant reply is even worse.
        how am i not accepting reality and define EVEYTHING for my purpose? oh so you do know my purpose?? are you God? dont be so undignified. im just stating the FACTS here. FACTS = REALITY. seems that you are the one who’s having difficulties with accepting reality. is it not reality that those countries you mentioned have more population than yours? is it not reality that south korea is number 2 on the suicide list in the world? is park geun hye scandal not a reality? now i doubt what you understand as “reality” is. you know what, i’ll just be looking forward to how your president and country do in the near future.
        im just happy not to be living in wherever country you’re in now, cause then everybody with such knowledge will all be criminals, like you said.

    • There are pervets and criminals everywhere, maybe more in china and japan, but that doesnt mean we shouldnt take a look at what’s happening in Korea. We should be even more careful so the situation doesnt become worst

      • Sick and tired Koreans playing God. Accept the fact world has full of perverts. Just do not think you are much more innocent or God like pure person than them. It takes two person too tango.

      • Wow… You’re such a jerk ain’t you ? It doesnt “take 2 to tango” when someone is raped or harassed just a victim and a fcking jerk that think he deserve more from the other when the only thing he deserve is a punch on the face.
        You’ll note I didn’t make any reference to one gender or sexe in particular, as anyone can be a victim of sex crime and be a sexual criminal, even tho we all know how it is most of the time, and that’s it’s not with people with your mindset that it will change.

      • Jerk is you. Not knowing the differences between Stalking and Sexual Harassment. You probably think Paparazzi is not stalking. Stalking is a serious crime. Like I said playing God. You should drink coffee wake up.

      • i dont understand your reply to the comment above, really. this person has never mention a thing about paparazi nor stalking. somebody need to open their dictionary. dont use google translate, it’s not perfect. your argument sounds weird. just a suggestion from someone who’s first language is not english 🙂 try starbucks’ double shots, prolly it will help to wake you up too 😀

      • What I was talking about was sexual harassment and rape, not stalking ? Stalking is harassment and in the case described on the article the man put his body “pratically against hers” so it can be considered sexual harassment.

        Now you just sound like a delusional korean man who just doesnt want to accept that all men arent angels to women, Korean or not.

        Ah and with that ‘Koreans playing God’ thing again, Im not Korean btw. Im a student in Korean civilisation and history, so I think I know well how women’s rights are a really recent thing in Korea and how the mentality of a lot of Koreans, even women, are really downgrading on some issues. Like this one.

  2. ew. if i were you, i would have gotten my phone out earlier and video tape the creep while talking to him that if he followed me again or come near me ever, i’d be reporting him to the police with this video as the evidence.

  3. Go to Taiwan before you even criticize about Koreans. Chinese, Japanese, Taiwanese, Thai, Filipino, Malay. All these nations have much higher degree sexual rape, sexual assaults than anyone will experience in Korea. Problem with Korea is Korean woman do not know what rape or sexual assault means in average. Korean Law and Order are corrupt.

  4. Taking pictures without consent is a crime. Sexually or Non-sexually. Majority of people who does this in Korea are 99.9 percent are woman or Korean woman.

  5. There’s a Korean proverb “If you don’t beat a woman (wife) for 3 days, they’ll turn into a vixen”. Korean men are simply following their glorious Korean tradition of keeping their wayward womenfolk (who are continually asking for privilages but showing ingratitude instead) in their rightful places.

    • there’s this thing called education, if you’ve ever heard. smart wouldnt just “simply following” anything that’s been passed down hundreds of years to you.

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